How Well Do You Really Know Yourself?

What I learned when I stopped looking for the right strategy — and started understanding how my own energy actually works.

I used to think I knew myself fairly well.

Taking personality tests gave me some valuable information about myself, such as: I'm introverted, sensitive, intuitive, good at helping people find their own answers. I keep things practical and simple. As an introvert, I believed I was built to stay in the background and support others from behind the scenes.

This was useful information. But it didn't change what I thought I could accomplish, how I actually showed up, how I worked, or even the results I achieved. I thought I was here to support the people who had a voice, who had knowledge to share, who knew how to get things done.

When I found my Personal Energy Blueprint, it added a whole new dimension to what I thought I knew about myself. Suddenly all kinds of things made sense:

• I'm not built for the background, I'm built to lead, out front, guiding people to their own truth.

• My best work only comes when I'm answering a real call, not performing a "should."

• My voice is one of my greatest assets, it can be clear, direct, powerful.

• I'm at my best when I work in deep bursts, then rest fully.

• My path runs through trusted relationships, rather than cold outreach or chasing visibility.

This, as well as the other things I discovered, was the opposite of what I thought I knew about myself. It explained why I often felt as though I was fighting against myself, and sabotaging my own efforts.

Aristotle said "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom" and I could not agree more. I think the trouble is that we don't go deep enough. We believe what we've been conditioned to believe.

Knowing your personality type is just one layer. Knowing why you actually work the way you work, and how to use your energy in the way that's right for you is a different thing entirely. When you understand these things, that's when you really come alive.

Looking for the Right Strategy

One thing I consistently see with clients (and this was true for me once too) is that they think they're stuck because they haven't found the right strategy yet. So they're constantly looking for the strategy that will work for them.

You can be looking for the "right" strategy for a long time. Wasting time, energy and money on things that don't necessarily apply to you and won't work for you.

When you learn how your own energy actually operates, and how your current level of thinking, being and doing is creating what you don't want, everything shifts.

A Client Story

One client had been employed at the same company for many years. She was constantly bypassed for promotion and felt stuck, wondering what she had to do to get her bosses to notice her.

Working together, we discovered that what was keeping her stuck was her lack of belief in herself, which stemmed from the unsupportive conditioning and constant criticism she received growing up.

She was stuck in the same house she'd inherited from parents who constantly criticized her, and she was stuck in the same job where she was not fully appreciated.

She came to me because she wanted a promotion. But what she really needed was self-awareness, self-respect, and a new belief in herself and her abilities, which felt very foreign to her initially.

By focusing on her energy, and her beliefs, rather than on the promotion, her confidence began to grow and she was soon offered a new, higher paying job with a company who knew her and already valued her. As the new job was in a different state, she moved out of her inherited home, which allowed her to leave that difficult past behind.

The answer wasn't "out there," it was inside. This is what people discover once they start learning what their life is showing them, and where they are out of alignment with themselves. This is what happens when you do that:

"I had a wonderful moment of clarity about fear. I have allowed fear way too much power over me in my life."

"One thing that really resonated was learning that I need time to make decisions. Every time I rushed before, it backfired, now I understand why."

"Now I'm much more intentional about my energy and how I structure my day. It's helping me show up for myself in a completely different way."

It Was Never About the Strategy

When you keep looking for the "strategy" that will turn things around, you are looking outside yourself, and the answer is rarely there.

It's never really about whatever strategy you use. It's the energy and self-knowledge underneath it that makes the difference.

If This Resonates

If this resonates and you're curious what your own energy has been trying to tell you — I'm holding Personal Energy Readings throughout July.

Small group session — $50, max 5 people 📅 July 21st, 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern / 6pm UK / 7pm Europe

Or a private 1:1 — $97, you choose the date and time

Here’s another favorite quote of mine from Abraham, which sums it up nicely:

"Take the time to line up the energy first, and action becomes inconsequential. Not enough action in the world will make any difference if you don't line up the energy."

And to line up the energy takes true self-awareness.