When “the Worst” Is the Way: How Alignment Turned a Job Loss into a Life Upgrade

When “the Worst” Is the Way: How Alignment Turned a Job Loss into a Life Upgrade

From the inside, change can look like collapse. Your breath turns fast and shallow, the jaw tightens, and the mind races to “fix.” Yet again and again I see the same pattern: when you realign belief and environment, life has room to meet you in unexpected (and better) ways. Louise’s story shows how that works.

Louise’s Before

For years, Louise was loyal, capable—and overlooked for promotion. Financially, everything felt tight. At home she lived in a house she’d inherited. It held history, love, and… a lot of “shoulds.” Certain rooms felt heavy and not-quite-her. She could sense a mismatch between who she was becoming and the energy around her.

In our first session we worked in two places at once:

• Belief layer: Where am I minimizing my value? What am I assuming is “just the way it is”?

• Environment layer (Feng Shui lens): Which areas feel stale or “not me”? What wants to be refreshed so the space mirrors the life she’s choosing?

We made small, specific shifts: a values-aligned intention for work, a written outline of “fit” (culture, contribution, compensation), and a quick refresh in a few areas of the home that held old family patterns—objects that told yesterday’s story more than today’s.

The Turn No One Requests

Shortly after, Louise lost her job. On the surface, this looked like the worst possible outcome. Together we chose steadiness over panic:

• Ground: feet flat; inhale 4, exhale 6 (3–5 rounds).

• Name what’s true: “This is happening, and I’m allowed to feel scared.”

• Reaffirm intention: “Aligned work that values my contribution—at the right pay.”

• Detach from the how: We let go of it needing to arrive through her current employer.

With the nervous system calmed and the intention steady, she had energy to notice real opportunities instead of clinging to familiar ones.

What Alignment Actually Looks Like

Alignment isn’t magical thinking; it’s congruence. Louise began acting from the belief “my contribution is valuable,” and her space quietly reinforced that message (clear pathways, light, only-what-supports on her desk). She practiced two scripts:

• Receiving: “Thank you—I receive that,” when praise or help arrived.

• Boundaries: “That timing doesn’t work; here’s what I can do,” when misaligned requests appeared.

The Opening

Within weeks, a role appeared that matched the “fit” she had written—better salary, clearer scope, a healthier culture. It required a move. Because she had already untangled from inherited “shoulds,” choosing a new home felt exciting rather than guilt-laden. Her note after starting:

“I have the type of job I like and the environment I work in is just as I would want. The new job meets the outline that I made using what you taught me… I was able to pay off some bills with my separation salary and can meet my monthly responsibilities with my new salary.”

Why the “Worst” Sometimes Helps

• Attachment can block flow. When we hold a single route too tightly, we miss the better-fit options.

• Environment cues identity. Spaces that reflect who you are becoming make aligned choices easier.

• Grounded physiology = better decisions. A longer exhale and softer jaw shift you from reactivity to clarity.

A Gentle Framework You Can Use

1) Self-Awareness (2 minutes)

• Notice: Where is your body saying “no” (jaw/shoulders/breath)?

• Name: “I feel ___ about ___.”

• Intention: one line that describes what you do want (clarity, respect, fair pay, spacious evenings).

2) Release (5–10 minutes)

• Breath: inhale 4, exhale 6 for 8–10 rounds.

• Space: remove two visual distractions; add one living element (plant/fresh air).

• Language: swap “I should” for “I choose” (e.g., “I choose aligned work and fair compensation.”).

3) Alignment (15–20 minutes)

• Fit outline: 5 bullets for your ideal role or outcome (culture, scope, compensation, schedule, values).

• Tiny step: one email, one update, one ask. Keep it specific and simple.

• Detach: remind yourself, “I’m open to the right path—not just the familiar one.”

4) Receiving Practice (daily, 30 seconds)

When appreciation or support appears, breathe, pause, and say: “Thank you, I receive that.” Receiving nourishes the very identity you’re building.

5) Boundary Script (when needed)

“I can give this my full attention tomorrow morning—does that work?”

(Your calm tone carries the boundary better than a lot of words.)

If It Looks Like a Setback

You’re not failing—you may be graduating. Louise didn’t “manifest a job loss;” she created clarity strong enough that misaligned pieces could fall away. That can feel scary. It also clears the path.

Make Your Space an Ally (quick Feng Shui lens)

• Clear an arm’s-width lane on the desk you use most.

• Light the space you work in (soft, warm, supportive).

• Place one object that reflects the future you’re choosing (word card, photo, plant).

Tiny environmental shifts often lead to a greater sense of inner ease—and that ease supports better choices.

Alignment isn’t about forcing outcomes; it’s about becoming the person who can meet them. When the “worst” arrives, it might be the doorway.

If you’d like help clarifying your “fit” and crafting tiny, aligned steps, DM “BREAKTHROUGH” and I’ll share the private link to book a complimentary 30-minute session.