Value Yourself First: Why Your HSP Traits Are Not the Problem
Linda BinnsWhen things don’t go the way we want them to, it’s easy to feel upset… or even angry. It can feel like unfair circumstances, other people’s choices, or “life” is doing something to you. And if you’re highly sensitive, empathic, and high-achieving, that intensity can hit even harder—because you notice more, feel more, and often carry higher expectations (for yourself and for others). You may have learned to think: • “I’m too sensitive.” • “I take things too personally.” • “I need to toughen up.” • “Something is wrong with me.” If that’s familiar, I want you to hear this gently: Your sensitivity is not the problem. The way you’ve been relating to it might be. “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” — Malcolm S. Forbes Why valuing yourself changes everything If you want to be valued—at work, in your relationships, in your life—there’s an inner shift that makes a bigger difference than most people realize: When you value yourself, you stop negotiating your worth. You begin to move differently: • You choose environments that support you. • You set boundaries with less guilt. • You stop over-explaining. • You stop trying to earn rest. • You stop proving you deserve space. That shift is energy. And energy is powerful.